Intimate Questions To Ask Your Partner

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So why would you want intimate questions to ask your partner?  Before you answer that, let me ask you this...

Do you truly appreciate what is going on in your partners head?  There is an age old dilemma going on ans it is that old Venus and Mars, war and love!

The famous book Women are from Venus, Men are from Mars points out that men and women are very different indeed but it's nothing we didn't already know, surely!

In general you and your partner are supposed to (I said supposed to because this is not science!) fall into this category and sometimes asking intimate questions of your partner can be a quite an eye opener.

By the way, by intimate questions to ask your partner, we don't mean questions of a sexual nature but things that people may think or want to say but find it difficult.

When he insists on carrying the shopping he may be trying to say “I love you deeply and I want to care for you.  I think you are precious and  I feel protective over you.”  But you may see it as “He doesn't think I can manage on my own.”

See how communication can be distorted?  So, by asking your partner intimate questions you can really see what's going on and truly understand your partner.

While we are talking about communication, here are a few tips on how to ask the questions before we give you a few examples of intimate questions you can ask your partner.

Closed Questions

One mistake people often make is by asking closed questions.  Closed questions are questions that can be answered by a yes or no answer.  For instance “Do you love me?” or “Did you miss me while I was away?”

Closed questions are good for the court room but not suited to being intimate with your partner!  In order to keep the conversation going you need to be asking open questions.

Open Questions

Open questions keep the conversation flowing because they invite more communication.  It should be impossible to simply answer yes or no to an open question.

A couple of examples of open questions could be, “Why do you think we feel this way about each other?” or “Where were we the first time we kissed?”

Can you see how open questions invite more answers, deeper, intimate answers than closed questions do?

Compliments

Asking your partner intimate questions can often reveal some surprising things and lead to them saying some wonderful things about you so I want to spend a little time talking about compliments and how to take them.

The very word “intimate” means that we are taking a risk in saying it because it is either embarrassing, a difficult topic or something we wouldn't usually say.

This means that if your partner says something intimate and gives you a compliment it really needs to be appreciated.

Appreciating a genuine compliment not only shows your partner that you appreciate it but also improves their confidence which means that you will get more in the long run, which is always nice!

Simple smile and thank them and give them a genuine compliment back.

While it may have all been started by an intimate question you will quickly find that you and your partner find your own flow and forget about what intimate questions to ask and just enjoy sharing.

Examples of intimate questions to ask your partner:

“How did it feel the first time we kissed / made love?”

“When we first kissed / made love, I felt (insert how you felt), why do you think that was?”

“When you think back to when we first met, I could never have imagined I would have loved you this much. How do you think I can show it?”

“We've been so happy for (insert time) many years, what do you imagine the next 10 years to be like?”

So, go ahead and think of some more intimate questions you can ask your partner and have fun...

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