Good Questions To Ask Your Girlfriend

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Good questions to ask your girlfriend are things which make her feel comfortable with you, things which build rapport and things which make her go on an internal search... Have I got your attention?  Good!  Let's go ahead and look at each thing in turn...

Firstly this is assuming that you are looking for this information because you are just getting to know each other...  If you have been together sometime then not all of this will apply and I am sure you will find the answers to your questions on our free article page.

Making Her Feel Comfortable

Firstly when thinking of good questions to ask your girlfriend it is important to remember that you need to make sure she is comfortable with the questions you are asking her.  If you want to ask her something intimate then at least make it amusing so that the laughter makes her more relaxed!

Seriously though, asking her something that embarasses her or makes her cringe just means that she's going to resent you asking any more questions, clam up and not want to talk or even punch you in the face!

Silly as it seems you can get some great ideas of what to ask her just by actually listening to her when she talks... I know, that's not a “guy thing” but try it, you may surprise yourself!

Building Rapport

So,what's rapport?  Well, in a nutshell it is the same as feeling comfortable with someone but it takes it a bit further.  Rapport is when you feel the same as someone else, when you can empathise with them and see things from their point of view.

Little things like sitting in the same way as she is (but don't make it obvious) while you ask your girlfriend questions or a real “insider tip” from a master of indirect hypnosis I know is to mirror her breathing.

What this means is that you start to breath at the same rate as she is, it is not noticable but she feels a strange link between you and her.  Try it by practicing in everyday life but makes sure you don't stare at someone's chest when you do it!

So, all of this is why it is a bad idea to ask her something embarrassing or intimate before building rapport.

Going On An Internal Search

If you want to increase your connection and rapport then ask questions that send her on an internal search.  What I mean by this is that good questions to ask your girlfriend are things that she connects with and has emotional attachment.

Why?  Well, not only are they much more interesting and keep the conversation going but you also find out much more about her, it shows you care and when she thinks of positive things she connects them to being with you...

Here are a couple of examples:

Good questions to ask your girlfriend

“What was the best holiday you ever had like?”

“What is it exactly about (favourite hobby of hers) that you love so much?”

Bad questions to ask your girlfriend

“Did you enjoy your holiday?”

“So you like (favourite hobby) then?”

See how the first questions force her to make a connection and remember something and open up the conversation but the second are questions she can dismiss with “Yes” or “No?”

Tips For Approaching Awkward Questions To Ask Your Girlfriend

So, to finish I'll give you a couple of tips in case you actually do want to ask something a little bit personal or awkward but don't blame me if you get slapped!

Say it with humour

As I said earlier, making a joke of it eases the tension and gives her something to do (laugh) during the awkward moment.  Don't overlook this one boys you can get away with being very cheeky with a little humour!

Say you would never ask

You can often think of good questions to ask your girlfriend and then frame them as if you didn't say them but someone else did.  Basically you test the water by not saying it yourself first!

It's cheeky but it works and here's how to do it...

“Can you believe that (insert someone's name here) asked his girlfriend (insert question here)”

Pause... wait for the reaction.  If it is a bad one you can both side with his girlfriend and say how bad it was of him.  If you don't get a bad reaction you can say:

“How would you answer that if you were her?”

This also gives your girlfriend away of answering the question without being awkward because she is answering “someone else”

So, there you go... some great advice and some good questions to ask your girlfriend!

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